tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839412.post3210339000646140891..comments2024-03-19T07:48:54.021-06:00Comments on Gus Van Horn: Is Love Limitless?Gus Van Hornhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05126749051688217781noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839412.post-29707285666877964642011-05-29T04:23:48.595-06:002011-05-29T04:23:48.595-06:00I like both the one-liner and the story that comes...I like both the one-liner and the story that comes with it, and may use the one-liner as a response myself, if that issue ever comes up in conversation.Gus Van Hornhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05126749051688217781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839412.post-12843068812424236292011-05-29T03:06:38.580-06:002011-05-29T03:06:38.580-06:00When someone pines to be loved unconditionally, my...When someone pines to be loved unconditionally, my response is usually "Why do you think so little of yourself that you can't meet any conditions?"<br /><br />That crack actually had a surprisingly positive effect on someone I knew years ago in Toronto, who IMO should not have had any issue deserving love. It helped her resolve to get out of a bad relationship.Jim Maynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839412.post-755632071898785192011-05-26T12:23:14.252-06:002011-05-26T12:23:14.252-06:00Heh! That's a classic, and it sums up a certai...Heh! That's a classic, and it sums up a certain kind of mentality very well. I honked my horn at her brother, the self-righteous urban street cyclist, the other day and got a loud, angry, "What?" back.<br /><br />Gosh, I don't know... Maybe it was the illegal cutting between lanes he did that almost caused me to have an accident. But, you see, I just don't get it: He's a full-fledged "car" when it's convenient, and just a bicycle when it's convenient -- and I'm supposed to adjust to whatever he thinks is the case, or at least pretend I don't notice.Gus Van Hornhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05126749051688217781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839412.post-38390343616826931372011-05-26T09:07:13.531-06:002011-05-26T09:07:13.531-06:00Gus -
That last comment of yours reminds me of th...Gus -<br /><br />That last comment of yours reminds me of <a href="http://www.theonion.com/articles/area-woman-tired-of-men-staring-at-her-breast-impl,9027/" rel="nofollow">this headline</a> from The Onion.Andrew Daltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11001665674703307354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839412.post-29457111132074732622011-05-26T08:23:13.995-06:002011-05-26T08:23:13.995-06:00Thanks for pointing out the typo, Mark, and for th...Thanks for pointing out the typo, Mark, and for the kind words.<br /><br />Now that you bring up online dating, I am similarly reminded of something I sometimes noticed, while I was single, back in grad school. I'd sometimes notice or hear about women with no (or very superficial) standards complaining on forums about how "all men" are scumbags who treat women like garbage. <br /><br />Fortunately, most women aren't that way, even though that vocal, irresponsible minority sure made it seem that way sometimes.Gus Van Hornhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05126749051688217781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839412.post-2745631419501516992011-05-26T07:12:34.680-06:002011-05-26T07:12:34.680-06:00Great essay. Reminds me of online dating - all the...Great essay. Reminds me of online dating - all these women who insist that their mate not be "judgemental". I sometimes ask them, as a joke, whether their attention should really be worth anything to me, if they won't make any effort to judge me worthy. Their answers always typically evasive.<br /><br />Your last paragraph has a typo that should be fixed - you used "unconditional" instead of "conditional".Mark Lindholmnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839412.post-72435404891524149772011-05-25T10:44:39.669-06:002011-05-25T10:44:39.669-06:00No. Good character is a necessary, but not a suffi...No. Good character is a necessary, but not a sufficient,condition for me to love someone. While there are plenty of good people that I love to different degrees, there are also plenty whom I do not love at all (beyond simple good will and the benefit of the doubt). <br /><br />That said, you are right to condemn loving someone for just his money. We agree on that. However, I am under the impression that you are arguing against standards <i>as such</i>. That is wrong and, if you live by that, you may suffer for it.<br /><br />For example, regarding to your claim that you would love your sister even if she robbed you and slept with your husband, or, God forbid, supported Sarah Palin: I'm not going to attempt to argue with you. If you want to lead your own life by blindly following, with no attempt to understand, whatever emotions you happen to feel, that's your problem. You will be at the mercy of whatever anyone you randomly happen to "love" randomly decides to do to you. <br /><br />Good luck with that: You will need it.Gus Van Hornhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05126749051688217781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839412.post-22776155919634997432011-05-25T09:04:45.520-06:002011-05-25T09:04:45.520-06:00Also, "loving" someone because they are ...Also, "loving" someone because they are rich is called prostitution, not love.Clarissahttp://clarissasblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8839412.post-42838381463321939562011-05-25T09:02:54.713-06:002011-05-25T09:02:54.713-06:00I can't agree with you here. I love my sister ...I can't agree with you here. I love my sister unconditionally. There is absolutely nothing she can do for me to stop loving her. She can become a criminal, a drug addict and even a Sarah Palin supporter, I will keep loving her. She can steal my money, sleep with my husband, get me fired, she is already forgiven for that in advance. <br /><br />She feels the same way about me.<br /><br />In your theory, love is something you grant people as a reward for good behavior. That, I think, is no love at all.Clarissahttp://clarissasblog.comnoreply@blogger.com